It seems foreign to some of us to actually ask for what we want. So often we have dreams, desires, wants and needs but lack the courage to simply ask. There are probably several reasons why we would be reluctant. For some of us it may stem from a childhood that it wasn’t safe to ask, because you were taught to accept what was given. For others it maybe a shyness that carries an inability to convey and for others it may be an insecurity that forces you to believe you don’t deserve what you desire.
A friend recently shared with me a YouTube clip of singer Billy Joel and a Vanderbilt student at a lecture/performance where Joel was the guest. This student prepared a question and was selected. The singer was his hero and he decided to make the boldest move in his life. He wanted to accompany Joel in “New York State of Mind.” He didn’t give a long explanation, he just asked and much to his surprise, Joel obliged with a simple “okay.”
Here is what brave Michael Pollack said in a news article about the opportunity: “I kind of lost myself playing and afterwards, he told me I was really great and asked where I am from. I told him I was a Long Islander just like him and then he said ‘cool’ and I walked off.”
Watching the video I was moved, but reading the article made me realize that such a monumental moment was simply granted all because he had the courage to ask.
We should all think of Pollack and this moment in his life the next time we desire to have a wish granted but lack the confidence to simply ask. Keep in mind that the worst thing that can happen is that we may hear “no” instead of “yes,” but at least we won’t walk away with regret over having not asked!
Dawn Bauer used her personal experience of “tough love” toward her troubled son to found The Family Hope Line in 2009. Family Hope Line is a cost-free placement service which assists families with struggling teens and provides family restoration. Through her company Dawn is a Family Advocate and certified Parent Coach. Her company creates an education-focused environment for teens while providing them with important life lessons to examine failed expectations, low self-esteem and fear which can hinder their potential and personal growth. Dawn is passionate in serving others and volunteers her time to various organizations in her community of St. Simons Island, Ga. Her message for young ladies is to “forgive and move from victim to victor” with a goal of empowering them with personal awareness and obtaining life skills that allow them to impact and empower others with similar struggles.