Do you ever find yourself thinking, “There is just no way I can ever do this?” or “Why do I have to always go through such trials?” or “If only he/she would do what I ask…?” I must confess…GUILTY! I read last week that the messages we tell ourselves can become self-fulfilled prophecies! Ouch! Not sure I was prepared to take ownership that it wasn’t my situation, but my thoughts and actions surrounding the circumstance that mattered.
So, I decided to do a little test of this theory. Each day I made a conscious decision to look at every situation from two perspectives: my impulsive reaction and then my rational response. I was truly amazed at the difference in the two. It made me stop and think of the times in the past of how I handled situations and especially the ones that I hadn’t liked the outcome. I began to realize that maybe it was how I chose to approach the situation based on my attitude and perspective that caused the outcome to seem unfavorable.
I realized in these moments how often we defeat ourselves by the messages we send from the words we speak. Often, we don’t even realize the power in the words that enter our mind. Once planted, we give a life to our thoughts through action…sometimes negative and sometimes positive. So with this, I began paying close attention to the things I allowed to fester in my head that were causing me to feel defeated before I even began my day.
Since, I’ve made a decision and a new commitment to myself. Life will always throw us unexpected situations, life won’t always go as planned and even in all our best efforts, we may fall short of our goals. But I was reminded that I needed to be careful about how I perceived these situations. Join me and resolve yourself to pay attention to the thoughts that you allow to take root. Try excavating these words from your thoughts. Ditch “I CAN’T”; Drop the “WHY ME’S” and Dump the “IF ONLY’S.”Replace with “I CAN and I WILL”! Remember, the positive outlook may not change the situation, but it will definitely change how you respond.
Dawn Bauer used her personal experience of “tough love” toward her troubled son to found The Family Hope Line in 2009. Family Hope Line is a cost-free placement service which assists families with struggling teens and provides family restoration. Through her company Dawn is a Family Advocate and certified Parent Coach. Her company creates an education-focused environment for teens while providing them with important life lessons to examine failed expectations, low self-esteem and fear which can hinder their potential and personal growth. Dawn is passionate in serving others and volunteers her time to various organizations in her community of St. Simons Island, Ga. Her message for young ladies is to “forgive and move from victim to victor” with a goal of empowering them with personal awareness and obtaining life skills that allow them to impact and empower others with similar struggles.